When Change Is Not What We Want

In using the I Ching to assist us in bringing about change we need to recognise how often we ask for things we think we want but may not in fact need in reality. If and when they are brought to us we may feel sorely disappointed or yearn for what we had before. It is possible to spend large portions of time wishing for things to be other than what they are only to find that those new conditions are not in our best interest.

That then is the lesson. Once we acquire what we had hoped for and find it falls short of what we imagined it would be, the lesson stares us in the face – we may have squandered what we first had by being unable to appreciate it at the time.

It is a tough lesson to live through as we invariably cannot go back for what we had before. We must keep moving in the new direction requested, the one that is now supported by the universal correspondence of energy. Perhaps the whole purpose of being thrust forward into the change is to awaken us to the lesson of appreciating what was hard, disagreeable and fixed.

At times of struggle and pain we rarely accept our conditions and receive the lesson. We become lured by temptation in which the desire for things to be made right is our driving force, whether it is in wanting healing from an illness, freedom from a particular person or place or just a sense of satisfaction. Whatever our problems are about, if we are able to accept them as stepping-stones to greater self-knowledge and care, then we do get the lesson. Thus, when we make a change from that standpoint, our change is worthwhile and brings us joy.

What happens when the change we call for is not what we want?

It illuminates us to try to be more careful about throwing things away, or being flippant and judgmental towards other people, or chasing lofty goals that may trip us up and never satisfy. Getting what we don’t want but thought we did is a gift, just as much as the gift of struggle and dissatisfaction we were trying to leave behind or overcome.

It is impossible not to believe there will be a better situation for us up ahead. This is part of the natural cycle of impetus and change that is creativity.

One safeguard in asking for change is to look into the motivation behind our need for it and the feelings that go with it. Often we do not want to be free of the person with whom we appear to have a problem – even though we think we do – but we do want to eliminate the feeling we are left with after a power struggle with them. Altering the way we communicate our needs is the starting point then. We can present this to the I Ching and be given an answer of guidance that can alter our internal approach rather than being focused on the outer world where we move out to ’find someone else’.

This type of safeguard will empower a different result. Thus the changes requested are not movements from ‘this’ to ‘that’ but from within and can cause a major shift in our personality and habits across a number of areas. This is the subtle change realm on which the I Ching works well. If we insist on continuing to ask questions that are about ‘getting this’ and ‘getting that’, we have missed the major point of its charm.

When we believe our current situation is just not right we lean out towards change, sometimes denying all we could be doing and sharing in our current state in order to improve it.

To be focused on a future condition that we think will be an improvement on what we have right now can be an escape. This action of imagination is not always in our best interest, especially if it removes us from taking responsibility for the tricky things that are occurring within our circumstances in the here and now. Face up to your realities with grace.

It is the very act of facing what is right in front of us that facilitates the changes the I Ching may suggest around our hope and dreams. We must step up our initiative to act on our own behalf so that SINCERITY is felt and we do not wait around for a kind of ‘magic wand effect’ to occur without any help from us. We ARE the action that is required. Only by our own function and acceptance of what IS can change begin to start.

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