INERTIA……again!

Inertia can be the result of making too many decisions at once and feeling overwhelmed. It can also be the fallout from a promise we want to keep yet are unwilling to act on in the here and now. Most often it is a build up of fear and hesitation that we know we are holding onto but refuse to give up.

“No decision is a decision too.”

People tend to say they are poor at making decisions. It is more likely they are quite capable of doing so yet unwilling to follow through on them. Action brings a decision to life and incurs responsibility. We move from a vague position of comfort and non-accountability to one of commitment.

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I am sorry to all those people who come to this website and find some ideas being repeated. This theme of inertia has been raised in previous articles but many site visitors keep getting stuck around issues of when to act on their ideas and why they feel so overloaded if they let the time for action pass. Inertia develops when we disconnect from taking action, as if another aspect of ourselves or someone else would be gracious enough to step in and do that part for us.

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Let’s assume it is easy to come to a decision and that we can even get excited about the action we need to take. However, the fear of experiencing the fallout from taking that step is too much. If we repeatedly think about taking that action, a part of us can almost become convinced that we have actually done so because we have practiced it in our minds so often that it almost feels real. Yet it is a false reality, a fantasy, and we are left with a divided self – the part that senses the action to be carried out and the part being left to eventually fulfil that action – but there is no communication or connection between the two.

“Wouldn’t it be great to deal with a particular concern and then be able to say – Next?”

Feel the freedom that enters and is right there the moment something that we have been carrying around for a long time leaves us. There is a space to welcome the ‘next’ thing we are ready for and to start to deal with that as well. This is how truly successful people make their way. They do not allow themselves to get bogged down in the ‘what if’s’ or remain buried in how, what, when and why scenarios. A successful decision-maker is too busy handling what comes up and dealing with it quickly to ever notice being buried in ‘stuff’. This ‘stuff’ can be an acute state of stress build up for some people. Here is some symbolism to point out why it is unhealthy to hold onto that ‘stuff’.

Imagine if each problem you had to face were a block of wood and you could only let go of it after you had dealt with the issue it represented. You may be so busy getting in touch with how that block feels and what type of flame it will create and whether your chimney is properly designed for the way it might burn – before you know it you have another problem looming and you’re holding the next block of wood as well. You would just keep piling blocks up without ever using them to start a fire. If you physically had to hold onto them they would be piled up above your head. Once you could no longer see in front of you there would most likely be a great toppling over. Surrounded by blocks of wood – all your problems – now in disarray and out of order in a heap around you – it would become a guessing game as to what order of importance they came in, how relevant they are to this moment now and just what you ought to pick up and start to set on fire first. No wonder people feel helpless, hopeless and INERT in the accumulation stage of a crisis. It is not simply a balancing or juggling act but a waste of good present moment energy fuel that never gets realised.

“Do you choose to live by dead wood or by a beautiful flame?”

If we hold onto a decision to act upon in the future it starts to accumulate a bank of stagnant energy. Anticipation for the action remains on a mental level only but starts to leak into our emotions too. This is when people start to feel ‘sick and ill’ about their responsibilities and get tired all the time. The flow on effect is that others around them pick up this gloomy energy and are repelled.

A person who can set their mind to something and focus on action is going to be attractive.

In order to keep a continuous flow in life and implement our decisions in the right timing, we need to fuel the steps to their accomplishment without second-guessing ourselves. To doubt a decision that has already been made creates an impediment. Sooner rather than later, once doubt has set in, we may abandon the spontaneous and natural decision that first came to us. A chance is missed.

A blockage from over-thinking and the heaviness that fear dictates start to depress our energy. Instead of enjoying the free flowing action that comes from taking a spontaneous step we are left in ‘the dead zone’ of not knowing what to do. Yet right at the start we had that absolute feeling of trust that we knew exactly what we wanted and were excited by the idea! And even if we didn’t know we were prepared to take a risk and see what came of it.

Spontaneous thinking doesn’t easily return once we have allowed our rational mind to be the guide.

“Living well means making mistakes.”

Next time you make a mistake or the outcome of a decision you act upon is less than ideal, congratulate yourself that you have stepped into life with all its twists and turns. You are trying things out, you are seeing how things fit and you are getting involved! Allow mistakes to fuel your passion and make you more determined to ‘come unstuck’.

The worst thing that can happen in following through on a decision is that you could be wrong. So what? That is how you find your way to what will work. Even a backwards way of working has its opportunities and gives you life experience that you can cherish.

“Be too busy to be proud.”

Become so involved and so unheeding of any gossip around you that you can actually move forward for yourself.

Until next time,
Karen Cohen

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